The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families
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| Rating | : | 4.55 (638 Votes) |
| Asin | : | 0471021520 |
| Format Type | : | paperback |
| Number of Pages | : | 352 Pages |
| Publish Date | : | 2018-01-08 |
| Language | : | English |
DESCRIPTION:
. Analyzes six key issues a straight spouse faces when a partner `comes out' including damaged sexuality, threatened marital relationships, conflicting spouse/parent roles, devalued self-concept, destroyed integrity and shattered belief systems. Contains stories and tactics for straight spouses and their families to constructively cope with a mate or family member who declares his/her homosexuality. From the Publisher An invaluable book incorporating the author's seven years of research and interviews with hundreds of spouses with insights derived from her own teaching and counseling work
Vennard, founder Task Force for Spouses of Gays and Lesbians ""The new enlarged edition adds important factors, especially children's reactions to a parent's coming out. Amity Pierce Buxton spotlights this exploding phenomenon and reports constructive coping strategies that spouses and children have used to resolve problems of sexual damage, family breakdown, deception, and homophobia. --The Reverend Jane E. Well-researched and insightful."" --Fritz Klein, M.D., author of The Bisexual Option ""Anybody practicing in this area would be well advised to read this book."" --Professor Arthur S. Illustrated throughout by riveting personal narratives, this expanded edition of The Other Side of the Closet traces the family's journey from initial trauma to eventual transformation. ""The first major work on the topic."" --Gay Community News ""A much needed comprehensive study of what happens to husbands, wives, and children during the coming-out crisis. This invaluable source of information for spouses, families, and professionals is based on Dr. Having a spouse or parent disclose his or her same-sex attraction is a shattering experience fraught with pain, confusion, anger, and a profound loss of self-esteem. Buxton's eight years of research, including interviews with 1,000 straight spouses and children, her own personal experience, and her counseling work with spouses of gay, lesbian, and bisexual partners.. Candid, compassionate, authoritative--a rich source of
AMITY PIERCE BUXTON, Ph.D., lectures nationally, conducts support groups and counsels spouses and ex-spouses of bisexual, gay, and lesbian mates. She chairs the International Straight Spouse Support Network of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). She also serves as spouse liaison to the Gay and Lesbian Parents Coalition International (GLPCI).
"Understanding the "other side"" according to kristopia. Amity Pierce Buxton's book is a good resource, to a point, for spouses who find themselves in a mixed-orientation marriage. While I found that the stories were somewhat outdated and I had difficulty relating to them, the statistical information in the book makes it worth the read. It reads a bit like a scholarly textbook outside the personal testimonies, so expect it to be dry in places.But it does provide information and stats to the straight spouse. Some of these statistics can be pretty depressing, and I found that the book does not really cover . Less-than Helpful for Bisexuals A Customer I was excited when I saw the title of this book. Foryears I had been disappointed to see that the mass medianever seemed to take into account that a person who is coming out in a marriage could be bisexual. I hoped this book would be different, but it was not. If there was a reference to bisexuality in this book, I could not find it. I certainly hope that someone can prove me wrong. The message I read, however, was "wives, don't event attempt to save your marraige. It is over, there is no way your husband will ever be interested in you." This book l. This book saved my sanity My ex and I were married for 15 years. He never came out. Still insists he's not gay and that I am crazy and vindictive. But I knew he was gay at the end of our marriage. For several years I thought I was the only person this happened to. After reading this book, I found that there are so many circumstances in which these marriages happen, and it was like reading my own story in some places. I learned that this wasn't just a fluke, and it wasn't just me - there are patterns here that I recognized.I also learned that the whole drama of coming out or